December is such a crazy time of the year for all of us. The whole ‘festive season’ thing is super distracting, we have the added anxiety of family holidays and shared meals and gift giving and just when we think we are about to crack, we push ourselves just that little bit harder to make New Year’s resolutions to ‘do better’.
I don’t know about you, but this December I haven’t been feeling particularly ‘festive’ and I find myself feeling overwhelmed and anxious. We have so many things that we need to get done and so many people we feel we need to keep happy and those To Do lists just get longer and longer!
Strange thing seems to happen though: the longer that To Do list gets, the less I seem to get done. So, of course, I googled it and t turns out it’s a real ‘thing’. It’s basically due to a feeling of utter and complete overwhelm with so many things to do, that we go into a state of paralysis of sorts and we just don’t know where to start and what to do.
Phew! Now that I know this is actually a ‘thing’ and I’m totally not alone in this state, allow me a moment to suggest that you join me in taking a breath.
Just take a moment to focus on ‘being’ instead of ‘doing’.
There’s various different strategies that we can use to overcome this paralysis and procrastination, one of them being the advice that we should reduce a task into its component parts and do a little bit at a time.
For me, it helps to prioritize by making a list and connecting deadlines and due dates. No need to be stressing now about buying school clothes in January, when Christmas is in a few days and I need to plan what I’m making for the family dinner – know what I mean?
So, prioritize and compartmentalize.
Focus on things you can control and push the other little gremlins out of your mind. You cannot do it all and stressing about things isn’t going to change the outcome.
Stressing just ages us and it makes us lose focus of the magic in the moment. We are so busy trying to be the perfect wife or mother or friend or hostess, that we often miss out on the blessing of friends and family and togetherness, of laughter and hugs and memories being made.
Sure, we can plan the perfect Christmas, but we cannot control how people will behave or whether they will like their gift or complain that the turkey is dry (or whatever). Let that shit go! That is their issue and you shouldn’t make it your problem.
As far as those New Year’s resolutions go, just stop buying into the bullshit! If you want to make any kind of resolution, decide to be kinder to yourself and to spend more time doing things that make you feel happy and like you’re the best version of ‘you’.
So, stop procrastinating and being paralyzed by overwhelm. Make that list, prioritize the tasks, focus on what you can directly control or influence and do a little bit at a time.
You’ve GOT this!